IS IT A BOON OR A BLASPHEMY TO BE A GIRLCHILD?
I always want to be a gem that everyone can adore but no
one want to afford and what can I do if people have wrong intention towards
that gem?
I’m sorry mom. I’m sorry that I kicked you when I was in
your womb when as a girl I was supposed to be in decorum. I’m sorry that I
broke your surreal idea of bearing a baby boy but I could do nothing because it
was the X chromosome that mated with your X chromosome. I’m sorry that I was
born to this orthodox and conventional society where people have been
surrounded by prejudices. I am sorry to frighten you every time I’m late to
return home but I should attend my evening classes. I’m sorry that you have to
handle me as safely as a trinket though I think I am as strong as a messiah.
I’m sorry that you need to stand by me protecting me but in my fanciful dreams I
always think of protecting you from every crisis. I know it can never be true.
Still, I’m sorry if at any point of time you have to regret having a baby girl
but I do believe that to have a baby girl is a boon.
A haunting question always hovers around my head. It’s not
from my inner but from people of my society. “Why don’t you ask your mom to
have a son?” What for? Should I have a brother to put tika on my forehead or for the days when the corpse of my parents
have to be cleansed? Time has changed many things. Please try to digest this
fact that to have a son isn’t mandatory. These sayings can’t stop the torrents
of tears dropping down my cheek. Is it my fault that I am a girl? Is it misogyny
due to which I am stigmatized every time?
Every time I hear this I get determined to do something
great and different. There is an adage stating, “If you are working on
something exciting that you really care about, you don’t need to be pushed. The
vision pulls you.” How could we reach
our destination without any halt? Rape, molestation, kidnapping, deuki, kumari and chaupadi,
become the hurdle of my way. I couldn’t answer why the blood of male is a sign
of bravery but the blood of female is an impure secretion. I couldn’t ignore my
sisters and mothers who were always dominated and are still being dominated by
the patriarchal society. I couldn’t camouflage all my sorrows by a smile when
people punctuate female on having 33% reservation. Do you really think we will
be happy with those reservations? If you think so then I flatly want to throw
those reservations on your face. What we want is equality and equity but not
reservation.
Whenever you look down to a female then always remember
that you were born of a female and some of you had even shared the same womb
with your sister or just like your sister. Make the world so beautiful,
pleasant and equitable that there would be no more girl in the whirlwind of
confusion and catastrophe punctuating her birth to be a boon or a blasphemy.
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